I am really tired after a longgggg day but I just had to blog this. For confidentiality purposes, only a really general overview will be given,
Today a friend of mine told me about how her close friend (henceforth known as A) is currently going through problems with her bf (ex?). When I say problems, I mean that the guy, for lack of a better word, was 'visually cheating' on A. And when confronted, he threw this at her.
"I CAN'T HELP IT. IT'S A GUY'S THING."
Does it being a "guy's thing" make it any less unacceptable? Does it being a "guy's thing" make any thing you do excusable? What would you do if you caught her kissing your best friend and she says, "I can't help it. Girl's thing"? Why must guys think with their dicks all the time.
You can't help it? GET HELP.
And right now, A is depressed. Actually, depressed would be putting it mildly. She is devastated and heartbroken to the point of contemplating suicide. Things are so complicated between them right now that everyone else is lost too. I'm not here to meddle in their affairs. But what I cannot stand is seeing a perfectly wonderful and beautiful young woman wasting her time crying her eyes out over someone like him.
Babe, if he could do it the first time it means he doesn't love you enough. And if he doesn't love you enough to stop himself from doing it the first time, he ain't gonna start loving you enough to stop doing it. I'm not asking you to be HAPPY. I know it's hard. I'm asking you to be CHEERFUL. There's a difference. A cheerful woman has cares but has learnt how to deal with them. There's always one person we love that becomes THAT definition, who sets the precedent for what we will love about other people. If he's dumb enough to walk away, be smart enough to let him go. I know you don wanna hear all that stuff about how there are always other guys. You know there are, and I know you know. But letting you go will be the dumbest, and biggest, mistake he will ever have made. Let him regret. Let him wallow in self-pity. Cos you don't need him. YOUR happiness should be in YOUR hands, don't let others hold it, so it will always be within your reach.
Please don't think about suicide anymore. It's not worth it, it'll never be worth it. What you can do with your life far surpasses what he can do for you. You asked why God wants to do this to you. He doesn't, trust me. He doesn't. God can mend all broken hearts - you just have to give Him the pieces. If He brought you to it, He will bring you through it. You have an amazing future ahead of you. You have wonderful friends who love and care for you. You have a warm family who loves you more than words can say. Don't throw that all away just because he doesn't love you. You are blessed in so many more ways than you can imagine.
I know there are plenty of other girls out there who are hurting, in the same situation. Off the top of my head, I can name at least one more. And that is saying something. If you know someone like this, please don't let her waste her time and life. She might miss him, let her. It can't be helped. Letting go doesn't necessarily mean she stops loving. But don let her throw her life away. Love comes to those who hope even though they have been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they've been betrayed, and to those who still love as though they had never been hurt before.
